Would You Date Him?
He’s from an inner city that is on the top ten violent list. He finished high school, but dropped out of two-year cooking school after one year. He took a cake baking class, and sold some cakes as a side hustle. He’s worked in many many kitchens like TGI Friday’s, Steak houses, taverns as a cook. He even opened his own restaurant, but it failed after two years. Finally, he got a job working in a hospital kitchen.
He doesn’t have model looks nor does he speak perfect English.
Would you date him?
Be honest? Could he get a date with you? Would you ignore him or think lowly of him when you see him in his chef’s uniform?
He’s Aaron McCargo Jr., the food Network star. His wife believed in his dreams and encouraged him to enter the Next Food Network Star contest. He beat out 3900 contestants and now he is on television every week.
Women probably swoon now. Now that he’s a star, but would those same women have believed in him when his business failed and when he dropped out of cooking school?
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Actually, I think he is really nice looking. His smile is what I saw first. So, yes, I would have dated him and encouraged his dreams as his wife did.
I do agree that with some women being privy to the fact that he’d not done so well with other ventures, a second look would have been out of the questions. I know a few of those women.
However, on the flip side of that, you have to look at it from the woman’s standpoint too. You have to know (at least with me) that this person has drive, ambition, and a sincere drive, to want to do better. He has a proven record of at least ‘trying’, but what led him to not fulfill the prior commitments? You have to know that “they want it” and sometimes that’s hard to tell with such a background.
I think this is a wonderful story and I’m so happy that he had the backing of a good woman – sometimes that’s all it takes.
Traci,
What would signal to you that he really wanted it???? What about his efforts are different than that of other men who have had similar failures?
Great question! I’d say that if I were dating, I really don’t know if I’d go out with him. It isn’t his career or track record so much as how he carried himself, what his goals were, how responsible he was, and how he respected me and my goals. People try and fail all the time, that can’t be predicted, but if the pattern was a matter of fear of success or self-defeating, I couldn’t deal with that because that’s an internal issue that would manifest even if he was a suit on Wall Street. The fact that he was a cook wouldn’t bother me at all.
Hmmm… that’s an interesting thought. Self-defeating or fear or success shows up all the time in successful people, but we don’t seem to notice it until they screw up royally like Tiger Woods, Bill Clinton, or Martha Stewart.