Love’s Gumbo Sistah Circle Exercise # 1: I Know Me
- Why are we doing this? The first step in making love work is knowing ourselves. Whether we are in an existing relationship or wanting to find love this exercise is good. Many times we know everything about our partner , our children, our friends, but don’t know anything about ourselves. This exercise will start the self-exploration process.
- How to do it: It may take sometime to get through.
- Copy and past the questions into a document
- Think about the questions, then Answer
- When you are finished answering, copy into the comment section to share.
- Come back to see what others think and remember to respond. Sharing is part of the learning and growing process.
- What is my favorite food?
What is my favorite color?
What is my favorite movie?
What is my favorite television show?
What kind of climate do I love?
What is my dream job?
What kind of clothes do I like?
What makes me feel a sense of accomplishment?
What excites me?
What makes me afraid?
What bores me?
What does my body want to do?
What about me will never change?
What about me has changed about me?
What do I want to say?
What do I want to hear?
What I am put on this earth to do?




What is my favorite food?
Lately it has been sushi, it used to be spaghetti
What is my favorite color?
Green
What is my favorite movie?
Love Jones
What is my favorite television show?
Chopped on Food Network
What kind of climate do I love?
Warm & Sunny
What is my dream job?
Designing, writing, laughing, selling things, talking to people
What kind of clothes do I like?
Flashy and stylist
What makes me feel a sense of accomplishment?
Helping people
What excites me?
Seeing good things happen in the world. Beauty.
What makes me afraid?
The ugliness that humans have inside them.
What bores me?
People who talk too much about nothing.
What does my body want to do?
Body loves to eat and move.
What about me will never change?
I will always be a giver. I will always be a little rigid about how things “should” be. That’s just me, can’t help it. I accept that about myself.
What about me has changed about me?
I’ve actually become very flexible about how things “should” be. I work on it, so in some ways I have changed my rigid ways.
What do I want to say?
That everything is alright, no matter we do, everything is always going to be alright.
What do I want to hear?
That I am alright. That I am doing a good job.
What I am put on this earth to do?
To help others. To express myself freely.
What is my favorite food? rice: fried, in gumbo, en sopa, white, brown and plentiful
What is my favorite color? green
What is my favorite movie? i don’t have a favorite, but rather very many favorites
What is my favorite television show? same as above
What kind of climate do I love? moderate to high heat, low humidity
What is my dream job? non-fiction author
What kind of clothes do I like? flowy, boho in african/east asian inspired textiles
What makes me feel a sense of accomplishment? my marriage, my children, my home, my writing, my art, my Self.
What excites me? learning, mastering and failing at new things-must be new.
What makes me afraid? my mental illness, emotional fragility, other people’s ignorance and haphazard use of their own power/s.
What bores me? most “adult” people.
What does my body want to do? shed 10 pounds and move with ease like a rippling sea.
What about me will never change? aaah nothing is constant except change
What about me has changed about me? at some point or another everything has changed, but mostly i’d say my self-awareness has grown emphatically.
What do I want to say? “neither you nor i knows anything except that we know nothing, in spite of what we may think we know and know well”.
What do I want to hear? that i’m right, about what i’ve just said! laughs.
What I am put on this earth to do? exactly what i am doing right now, being unequivocally loving and sharing and learning, being in the moment, being me.
@lbm2 “neither you nor i knows anything except that we know nothing, in spite of what we may think we know and know well”.
That is a profound statement. When did you find this out?
I seem to have some things in common with lbm2. We both like green and we like to write and we are artists. Do artists know themselves more than others? Does writing make you think about who you are?
@LG#1 i think artists express themselves more freely (better?) but i think each of us intrinsically knows who we/they are.
@Lovesgumbo when am i not being reminded is a better question! ha! the universe is good that way though, just when i think i’ve aced it-whatever that “it” may be, i’m reminded and the growth continues.
What is my favorite food? Seafood
What is my favorite color? Pink
What is my favorite movie? Until September
What is my favorite television show? Lost
What kind of climate do I love? Summer/warmer climates
What is my dream job? Homicide Detective
What kind of clothes do I like? Comfortable/classic
What makes me feel a sense of accomplishment? Sticking to a plan
What excites me? Any good news right now
What makes me afraid? Being closed in/closterphobia
What bores me? Just having nothing to do
What does my body want to do? My body wants me to take better care of it and to be close to the one I love.
What about me will never change? I’m a Cancer so definitely my crabby ways, my emotional ways, My caring and protective way. I will never change for anyone, I try to remain true to myself…so take it or leave it!
What about me has changed about me? My tolerance for crap!
What do I want to say? What’s on my mind, to speak more freely about how I feel when I need to.
What do I want to hear? My sweethearts voice.
What I am put on this earth to do? To live, to love, and to learn and never take one day for granite.
What is my favorite food? Salmon
What is my favorite color? Black
What is my favorite movie? Why Did I Get Married?
What is my favorite television show? Bones
What kind of climate do I love? Sunny 70 -75
What is my dream job? Adoption advisor for adoptive parents
What kind of clothes do I like? t-shirt and jeans or t-shirt dress, casual
What makes me feel a sense of accomplishment? complements
What excites me? Change
What makes me afraid? The unknown/unexpected
What bores me? Selfish people
What does my body want to do? The unspeakable
What about me will never change? Finding the positive in most things
What about me has changed about me? Anger, more controlled now
What do I want to say? I want to be able tell someone I am not related to that I love them
What do I want to hear? What can I do for you?
What I am put on this earth to do? Help and touch as many lives as possible.
What is my favorite food? Crab legs
What is my favorite color? cobalt blue
What is my favorite movie? Steel Magnolias
What is my favorite television show? Private Practice
What kind of climate do I love? hot & humid
What is my dream job? life skills trainer
What kind of clothes do I like? comfy but somehow sexy
What makes me feel a sense of accomplishment? completing a task to the best of my ability
What excites me? He does
What makes me afraid? danger to my kids
What bores me? science
What does my body want to do? be smaller
What about me will never change? love of music
What about me has changed about me? my view of relationships
What do I want to say? Love me just for who i am
What do I want to hear? jazz
What I am put on this earth to do? bring joy thru song
@ Girl Kelly, What about your view of relationships have changed? Was it a negative or positive change?
@happytobeme–ohh what’s the unspeakable?
What is my favorite food? Mexican
What is my favorite color? Red
What is my favorite movie? Armageddon
What is my favorite television show? CSI
What kind of climate do I love? Warm
What is my dream job? Property Manager
What kind of clothes do I like? Jeans and a tank Top
What makes me feel a sense of accomplishment? My Children
What excites me? Warm weather
What makes me afraid? Being alone
What bores me? Doing the same thing all the time
What does my body want to do? Rest
What about me will never change? My eyes
What about me has changed about me? My willingness to be independent
What do I want to say? That I need to stay Positive
What do I want to hear? That I am beautiful the way I am
What I am put on this earth to do? Live my life to my fullest potential